7 Tips Men Wish Women Knew About Sex


7 Tips Men Wish Women Knew About Sex

September 24, 2010

1. Never ever put your husband down for his sexuality. This is cruel and unfair and belittling to him. He can ‘t help it, God made us this way. It would be like him putting you down for having a period; So just so you understand the kinds of comments I am talking about, things like these; What again, is that all you ever think about? Ugh I am not doing that, you are disgusting and perverted. Leave me alone and stop nagging me for sex. Or worse yet, manipulating him with sex, that makes you a prostitute.

2. Learn to be adventurous in bed. Men love that. Get over your inhibitions about sex. The last thing that you want him thinking in bed with you is that a previous lover was better in bed than you.

3. Get over your self image problems and invest in quality lingerie with lace and color. Believe me those white nylon panties with no lace are boring. Also invest in lacy bras preferably to match. Where a sexy nightgown every night, not just when you are planning to have sex. Put a lock on your bedroom door to keep the kids out.

4. Your kids will not be hurt or damaged by them hearing you and your husband having sex. In fact it is great role modeling for your kids and reinforces to them that you have a happy marriage which makes them feel better and more secure. They may even kid you about it, but accept it in good fun.

5. Your husband gets the bulk of his affectional needs through sex with you. When you deny him, he feels unloved, rejected and unworthy. It really tears at his self esteem.

6. Routinely wear short skirts and dresses for him. When he opens the car door for you, make sure to flash him as a cute little thing between the two of you. When you are in the car with him. turn towards him and pull your legs up and let him peek up your skirt at those sexy new panties you bought. Men never get tired of having panties flashed at them.

7. Lastly, tell him what you would like in bed. Most men are clueless about the female body and how to have great sex. Give him guidance, he can’t read your mind.

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  3. I don’t know, John…Sex is not all there is to a relationship. I used to think this way, and had ED problems to the point of being physically unable to have sex with my wife. Once I started being the giver and stopped being so selfish, she became less selfish and more giving, and I haven’t had a problem since. It’s not what she wears or how she looks that matters-it’s that I know how much she cares for me. I can see that dressing the way your man wants is a sign of care, but it’s really not that. There’s too many camera phones around for me to expect my wife to flash me when I open the car door for her. I open the car door for her because I care. In fact, as much as my job allows me, I am totally involved in my home life, and so is my wife. The brain is the biggest sex organ, and if you use your brain to help you give 100% (or as close to that as you can muster), I guarantee, she’ll return it. The key is to do that not expecting her to do anything in return…that’s Christian love.

  4. David, as prudish as you are about sex, I am surprised that you commmented on this blog post. I was writing some suggestions to women to better understand their husband’s sexuality and not to put it down as so many women do.

    The idea was to provoke them to step out of the comfort zone and fully embrace their sexuality and make it joyful for both of them.
    John Wilder

  5. I am not prudish about sex, regardless of how you characterize me.

    I’m just pointing out that your ideas don’t fit all. They may fit people who have a more earthly, base image of what marriage is supposed to be, and that may get you more $$$, but it’s not correct in many cases.

    You can embrace sexuality without flaunting it. And you can keep it to yourself, thanks.

    For what it’s worth, there’s just too much public sex out there. It wasn’t much more than 20 years ago when someone asked Gary Hart at a press conference if he had ever had an affair. Yesterday, people were asking Antony Weiner if he was fully erect or not. We’ve slipped waaaaay down that slope…time to put a stop to it.
    FWIW, I make love to my wife all day long, 7 days a week. When I earn my paycheck, it’s making love to my wife. When I kiss her when I get home, it’s making love. EVERY act I do for the good of my marriage is an act of making love. Her attitude is the same. Our love making is 24/7. Can you say the same? Or must you go to a fancy restaurant and light candles to get your libido going? As for me, being thoughtful is what marriage is all about. When I pour my wife coffee when we wake up in the morning, it’s from my heart. No special occasion or special prep necessary.

  6. You falsely claim that oral sex is wrong when she performs it on you, that anal sex is a sin even though God only forbade it to homosexual men and that birth control is a sin. Most catholics practice birth control
    The only thing that we agree on is that abortion is a sin.
    John

  7. I don’t claim anything. Jesus put his followers in the hands of Peter and his successors, who know a lot more than you about what is right and wrong, so I put my faith in them. Let me repeat: Any deliberate act that subverts the will of God is a sin. God’s will is to be fruitful and multiply. Any sex act which is fruitless, or not open to the possibility of fruitfulness, is wrong. He said it, I believe it. Whether most catholics use birth control is irrelevant, as is whether most catholics have oral sex or anal sex. And saying/believing that they are sinful is not prudish, whether you agree or not.

    John, I’m not here to condemn you, not the way you condemn me. I’m here to present the Catholic point of view, all of it documented. If I present my own ideas regarding what God wants for us, it’s a different story. I get it that you disagree, as do a lot of people, Catholic and non-Catholic alike. To which I shrug my shoulders. So what? You all disagree. Jesus didn’t run a popularity contest. He gave tough, gritty, hard knocks rules to follow. Even many of his closest followers turned their back because his rules were too tough. But tough or not, His church thrived. Emperors tried to destroy the Church of Christ, so did most others. And yet the Church is 1/6 of the world today. People died gnarly deaths because they wanted to follow the narrow way. It’s not about “I’m OK, you’re OK.” John, it’s just not. You go ahead and live your down-to-earth life. I’ll chose to lift my eyes to heaven to get my direction. As for your “God didn’t say…” deletist attitude, God didn’t say nuclear weapons were specifically prohibited either…nor did he outlaw slavery. He didn’t prohibit alcohol either, yet some of your bretheren believe it’s wrong to have a drink. Jesus told us that, if we even think lustful thoughts, we are in sin, John. You think that anal sex and oral sex aren’t lust-filled?
    Again, I’m not trying to tell you, or anyone else, how to live your life. But many people ask me why I’m so happy, and so centered and balanced. And it’s not about frilly panties and crotch shots…Remember, I was there not so long ago. And that is the way to death. I’m trying to show people the way of Life.

    Another thing, you think we agree that abortion is a sin, but I wonder how you react to someone if they were to tell you they had one…

  8. Peter and the apostles did not forbid oral and anal sex nor did they say that you have to only have sex when there is a possibility of pregnancy. You miss the sccripture in Proverbs 5 where it says that her breasts should satisfy us at all times and always be ravished in her love. Ravished is a bilical word for GREAT SEX. Hebrews 13:4 said that the marriage bed is undefiled in all. You would change that as well and make up your own morals or the catholic church so you say. I have asked you repeatedly to get me a bishop to back your claims to which you refuse.
    John

  9. Actually, they did, John. Ever read the Didache?
    Regarding Proverbs 5, not sure what translation you’re reading, that’s not in mine…Invigorated is the word in mine. And where do you get the idea you can’t have great sex the regular way?

    John, I’m not doing your work for you. It’s not a question that interests me. I can show you church Doctors who say I’m right, why must I go further???

  10. The King James versioni. No I have not read the Didache. I only read the bible in matters of faith and morals and Hewbrews 13:4 says that the marriage bed is undefiled in all. Of course you want to ignore that.

    Share with me what church doctors say that agrees with you.

    John Wilder

  11. David, I have now read the Didache. First of all it does not mention the Resurrection of Jesus. Secondly, it does not forbid oral or anal sex between husband and wife, what else you got?

  12. Oh, the one that left out 7 books of the Bible? That one? I see. Where does the Bible say that it is authoritative in matters of faith and morals? What was the authority before there was a “Bible”?
    Hebrews 13:4 says “Let marriage be honored among all and the marriage bed be kept undefiled, for God will judge the immoral and adulterers.” It says that we should keep the marriage bed undefiled. I does not say that it is undefiled. Read the whole line and you understand that it means to keep it sacred and holy.

    St. Augustine of Hippo writes: You make your hearers adulterers of their wives when they take care that the women with whom they copulate do not conceive. They take wives according to the laws of matrimony, by tablets announcing that the marriage is contracted to procreate children, and then, fearing your law, they copulate in a shameful union only to satisfy lust for their wives. They are unwilling to have children, on whose account alone marriages are made. Why, then, do you not prohibit marriage, as the apostle predicted (1 TIM 4:1-4), when you try to take from marriage what marriage is? When this is taken away, husbands are shameful lovers, wives are harlots, bridal chambers are brothels, fathers-in-law are pimps.”
    (From Reply to Faustus the Manichean (from a man who chased women and fathered a child out of wedlock…)
    Further,
    “I am supposing, then, although you are not lying with your wife for the sake of procreating offspring, you are not for the sake of lust obstructing their procreation by an evil prayer or an evil deed. Those who do this, although they are called husband and wife, are not; nor do they retain any reality of marriage, but with respectable name cover a shame.”

    John, what constitutes “lust” to you?

  13. Saint Augustine of Hippo is not part of the biblical canon. Lust as defined by the bible is the unlawful desire to have sex with another woman that is not your wife. There is nothing wrong at all about lusting after your own wife nor is there anything wrong with not having more kids than you can afford. Sex is not just for procreation but for natural affection.

    Here is the quote from KJV on Hebrews 13:4

    Version (NKJV)

    4 Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.

    The sentence stops at undefiled and then gives new insight about sex. Fornicators were temple prostitutes who helped people worship the false god of Baal and Ashtoreth. In fact, in greek this is where we get our word transliterated porno. So God was condemning false god worship. He then went on to condemn adultery. The first sentence says it all, that the marriage bed is undefiled in all or among all things done there like anal sex and oral sex. You don’t even know how to interpret the bible apparently.
    John

  14. Actually, Biblically, the basic definition of lust is having a self-absorbed desire for an object, person, or experience. Self-absorbed is the key. And all selfish desire is sinful.

    St. Augustine, whether you like it or not, gave you the basis for your faith. Were it not for the Catholic Church, Christianity would not have survived until your church was formed, John. Christ gave his faith to his apostles and urged them to pass it on, and gave them a guiding spirit to protect the truth. Of course, Martin Luther was one of those who chose his own way rather than God’s way, and so we have the Protestant sects.
    I’m sorry, but I don’t buy your translation of the scripture. None of them is perfect, but yours just doesn’t cut it here. I can even see the meaning, though, of what was actually conveyed, so it’s really your own interpretation you want to follow. You just want to do what you want. Don’t say somebody didn’t warn you.

    Like I said, John, the Church tells us how we ought to live if we want to be with Christ in eternity. We men can’t follow it-it’s impossible without asking His help. I choose to look toward heavenly things, but you’re perfectly welcome to do things your way. You might kid yourself and say it’s ok with God, but it doesn’t look that way to me, nor to the Catholic Church.

  15. Where is that written in the bible? How can you not understand something so simple as Hebrews 13:4. As to the fornicators,look it up in a commentary and Strong’s Exhaustive Concordance and look up

    the greek word and its definition in the dictionary in the back. John

  16. See, this is the problem…you and I have no authority. But Christ gave the Catholic Church the authority to interpret scripture. And for what it’s worth, “commentary” and “Strong’s Exhaustive Concordance are not scripture, either. Nor are they infallible.

    By the way, you aren’t going to find a biblical definition of lust. You’ll find examples, though. Lust has as its focus pleasing oneself, and it often leads to unwholesome actions to fulfill one’s desires with no regard to the consequences. Lust is about possession and greed. The Christian faith is about selflessness and is marked by holy living (Romans 6:19, 12:1-2; 1 Corinthians 1:2, 30, 6:19-20; Ephesians 1:4, 4:24; Colossians 3:12; 1 Thessalonians 4:3-8, 5:23; 2 Timothy 1:9; Hebrews 12:14; 1 Peter 1:15-16). The goal of each person who has put his/her faith in Jesus Christ is to become more and more like Him each day. This means putting off the old way of life of which sin was in control, and conforming one’s thoughts and actions to the standard put forth in Scripture. Lust is in opposition to this ideal.

  17. .

    The bible has specific commands not to lust after a woman in the old and new testaments. Strong’s explains the hebrew and greek words from the bible.

  18. But where does it tell us what “lust” is? We have to infer it from the examples it gives, which I have done.

    I’m familiar with Strong’s. It’s not a Catholic publication. And it’s not scripture. So where do you get off telling me I can’t use extra-biblical texts, and that you can?

    John, my authority is the Catholic Church and the apostles and their disciples, who were guided by the Holy Spirit. That’s where I get mine.

  19. You seem bent on obfuscation. I never claimed Strongs is the bible. It is a reference work as a bible study aid.

    You need to give me some authorities other than yourself to question such as a priest, bishop or church doctor. I don’t think that you have a good understanding of catholocism as well because you add stuff that I have never heard any catholic or priest say.
    John

  20. You have neglected to pontificate on Hebrews 13:4. It did not say that anal or oral sex was forbidden, quite the opposite.
    John

  21. I have done just that, John. St Augustine of Hippo, the Didache, which was written by the apostles themselves. Would you like me to flood your comments? St. Clement of Alexandria, St. Hippolytus of Rome, Lactantius, St. John Chrysostom and many more who were disciples of the apostles tell us what we are to believe and how we are to live. And as I said, you’re absolutely free to do as you please (because that’s what you’re already doing).

    I am a student of my faith, so I’m always challenged to know it better. IT’s impossible for me to know it all. But just cuz you’ve never heard it doesn’t mean that the Church doesn’t teach it. And just because you’ve heard someone say that the Church teaches something doesn’t mean that she does.

    http://www.chastitysf.com/q_secondmrg.htm

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