I wish I had gay parents!

Okay, so maybe I should rethink this for a minute.

Bad 80′s movies aside, I think I should stand by that statement. I wish I had gay parents.

Er…well…let me try again.


I don’t WISH I had gay parents. I love my parents. They aren’t perfect, and they are now divorced. But they are kind and caring and understanding, and they helped me grow up to be the person I am today. Which may or may not indicate that they did a decent job.

So I don’t wish my parents had been gay. But looking back, I don’t think I would have minded it one bit.

In fact, I think I would have turned out just as good or even better had I been raised by two married (or as good as married) men or women.


The simple fact that a homosexual couple cannot have a child by accident.

A gay couple can’t accidentally get pregnant. They can’t have a child when they don’t think they’re ready. They can’t have a child when their finances are barely enough to support themselves.

When a gay couple has a child, it is done after much thought and consideration. Not because gay people are more thoughtful or more considerate, but because they have no other choice.

A gay couple is like a couple who adopts. They may not be perfect, but you know for certain that they have children because they wanted them and planned for it.

But of course, many of our religious friends have a different opinion.

What do you think?


Posted on September 9, 2011, in Atheism, Culture, Lifestyle, Politics, Sex and tagged , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 5 Comments.

  1. While I certainly have no problem with any loving family – gay or straight – adopting children, I do think that the assumption that all gay couples are stable and have solid reasons for adopting children is a little bit of an idealic view. Adopted children are adopted by people. People – all of them – have problems. Gay couples break up just like straight couples do. And just like straight couples who hyperfocus on having (or obtaining) a child simply because they view that as the “normal” thing to do, gay couples can do this as well. There are people who mistakenly think that a child will save a relationship/marriage by bringing the couple closer. Those people end up with a broken relationship and an innocent bystander. Gay and straight people have the same emotions. Gay women can have maternal instincts and can hear a biological clock tick just like straight women can. Not all women want to be mothers. Not all men – gay or straight – want to be fathers. And not all parents who choose to have or adopt children are immune to making mistakes just because they are older and more settled. Gay people are still people. And as people, they are as subject to flaws as everyone else.

  2. This topic fires me up… and I have a lot to say about it. Too much for this one post,however. I will try to keep it concise.

    First, I DID have a gay parent. My mother came out to me after the divorce. I remember our family being so loving and affectionate, supportive, understanding… blah, blah, blah. And coming from the country, where no one is gay, I was embarrassed that my mother was. It took two years for me to mature and understand that, “This amazing mother before me is the same amazing mother, now that I know her secret, as she was when I didn’t know.” By telling me she was gay didn’t somehow go back in time and erase how great a mother she was.

    And now my rant.

    There are thousands upon thousands of children who grow up in orphanages, foster care, etc. And this is just here in the states. There are millions in other countries who will die from starvation, disease, etc. Yet the religious deem who IS or IS NOT fit to take care of those children based on their superstitions. By doing this, they are essentially saying, “I would rather this child suffer all their young years, and then die, before letting a loving homosexual couple take care of them.”

    This sickens me to no end. In our “modern” society this type of evil still exists. I would be ashamed to be a part of such a hateful organization who has their priorities so fucked up that they can possibly think that their imaginary friend in the sky would rather have his children die as apposed to be placed into a loving, caring family who will give them all their mortal needs.

    And with that… I can’t say anymore. It’s sick and I want nothing to do with it. I seriously want a Christian to come on here and explain this type of logic to me. Give me some sort of godly reasoning that will shed some light on this much heated subject. Try and explain away why children will rot in hell long before they are aloud in ANY loving home.

  3. Susan,
    Thanks for joining the conversation. And I don’t want to speak for you NotAScientist, so let me know if I have mis-spoke.

    I think what you’re saying is true. Everyone is subject to life’s dilemmas. But I don’t think that is the point he was trying to make.

    I hate picking on just Christians, because all religions are fucked up in their own ways. So I will say religious people.

    Religious people, or more accurately, religious organizations, refuse homosexual couples. Flat out. You can’t refute that. As a matter of fact, MOST adoption agencies ran by religious organizations, will refuse anyone not a member of their particular church. What! (and yes, these are all facts, you can do your own research)

    People have children all the time. Statistically, most were unexpected. Oopsy! Since a gay couple couldn’t possibly make a baby on their own, when they do, it was premeditated. They thought long and hard about their partner, their housing, income, living situation, etc. Many, many factors go into planning for a baby. A gay couple MUST prepare. Their is no other option. So, chances are good, that right out of the box, a child raised in a homosexual home has a better chance of success than in a heterosexual one. It’s numbers really, that’s all it is.

    Statistically, a gay couple is “prepared;” a heterosexual couple, statistically, is not. And going by your own logic of everyone is subject to the same worldly problems, it only makes sense that a couple who is more prepared to deal with those problems have a higher success rate.

    Did that explain your post, NotAScientist?

  4. Christopher Montealegre

    Well, I’m a big fan of a conservative talk-show called “The Jesse Lee Peterson Radio Show”, listen to it every day, and naturally, homosexuality is almost always a super hot topic. Whether it be about same-sex marriage, homosexuality “in the eyes of God”, or homosexual rights, its seriously mentioned at least once or twice per show, and thats being skimpy… Now I know that a lot of liberal weenies are just foaming at the mouth to make a childish joke based on that info, along the lines of “well if he talks about them so much then that must mean that HE’S gay!” But no…just no.

    Anyway, I think I can somewhat answer your question Mr. May, precisely because I listen to Christian conservative republicans talk about it so often, and one of the main reasons why they would take issue with allowing a gay couple to adopt children, is because they deem homosexuality and the accompanying lifestyle to be inherently evil, abominable to God, and abnormal. Again, many liberals hyperbolize things…most conservatives don’t consider homosexuals to be otherworldly monsters or anything, however they DO consider them to be wreathed in sin and of the devil, and though you may argue that that is not based “on reason”, scientists are yet to discover what it is that causes homosexuality in the first place, so hypothesizing is allowed on this one subject wouldn’t you think? Lol.

    So far, I haven’t heard anyone put it quite like you have, the whole issue with orphaned children and what-not, but let me tell ya’, don’t get so immersed in your own liberalism that you can’t see the other sides point… Simply because – the main reason that there are so many orphan baby’s in the first place, is due to the flood of liberalistic values and “morals” that has swept through America and the world in the past few decades.

    Liberal policies are in fact BAD for America and BAD for wherever the hell else they are implemented (hello, living in a socialistic third-world country here), so it’s no stretch to say that we seriously CAN’NOT continue to grant rights and privileges to all of the degenerates and parasites of the system out there…PEACE!!!

  5. See, this is where Christians in general lose those who operate on logic. You can’t say, “Welp, science can’t prove otherwise so I must be right.” You simply can not disapprove the existence of that which does not exist. Let’s pick a city, say Springfield; and in certain that city has a Main St. And I’m also certain there is a house on Main St, at least one. Neither one of us know the color of that house. But according to Christian logic, you get to say that the house is blue; and blue it becomes. Christians could say, “Well, we have no reason to believe there is a blue house on Main St; and since we’re not certain, we’re not going to create a complete dogma around that uncertainty. No?

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